Month: January 2020

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Einstein asked: Is the universe friendly?

So many of us grow up believing it to be hostile. There are experiences that are difficult, and that even seem downright cruel. It doesn’t make sense. Things hurt…physically, emotionally, mentally. Sometimes the pain is so great and so debilitating it feels unspeakable.

We hide.

We feel as if no one could possibly understand, and we find ourselves locked away in an isolated world. We become ashamed of our pain. I know I’ve felt this way…ashamed of the truth of what I was feeling. Not to be able to honestly express ourselves piles on the shame and adds anger, confusion and fear into the mix.

It is quite possible to be sure that we are unloved even when it isn’t true. 

We hear the judgments. We hear all kinds of things about how we’re supposed to be in the world…and what’s acceptable…and either subtly or quite overtly, we hear plenty about how we’re not measuring up. We may feel we somehow don’t even belong in the world; that we, ourselves are a horrible mistake – and we may try to hide this away so no one will see. We don’t love ourselves and our fear has us not reach out for help.

The interesting part about doing that is: as long as we’re closed off in our own little world like that, we think we’re the only one doing it. We don’t see that it’s a deeply ingrained part of the human condition. 

I would venture to say that almost everyone has experienced this feeling of being alone and “unacceptable” at some point, in some area of their lives. We’re afraid to step out of our prison because we’ve been hurt before; and, psychologically, it seems to make a lot of sense to protect ourselves. It makes sense to keep ourselves “safe”.  But what I am learning is that our closed off, balled up sense of safety is a big lie. Our real sense of safety is in our freedom.

I didn’t know this until I started being called to come out of my cage…to take a leap and discover for myself whether or not the universe is friendly. What I’m finding is that the more I lean into the truth of what’s happening right now and go with it, the more okay I am. I found the gentler I can be with myself, the gentler the universe appears. I found that the more I am willing to reach out and be just as real as I know how to be, the more the universe reaches back to me with guidance and resources and, yes….love. The more I am willing to confess my pain, the better I feel. It starts here, with me. I feel as if little by little by little I’m beginning to get it.

LIVE A BREAKOUT LIFE!

Your answers are inside you! Are you ready?

Could you use a partner to help you navigate through what’s happening in your life right now? Or maybe navigate from where you are to what you would LOVE to actually see happen?

I’m noticing that being a coach has a lot more to do with guiding you to your own insights than it has to do with advising; and I’ve learned some tools that can help you. The exciting thing is: You’ve got this! You just have to want it; and I can be there for you along the way.

Would you like to?

• Discover your own innate wisdom.

• Connect the dots and see the patterns that are guiding you.

• Experience partnership on your journey to create your vision.

Let’s talk! My intention is for these conversations to be fun, and for you to dive into some revelations of your own. I want you to leave a conversation with me feeling inspired and with a clear vision of what you want and where you want to go.

Sound interesting? I am currently offering FREE CLARITY SESSIONS through the month of February. Just type “yes” in the comments below or Private Message me and we’ll set up a time to talk.

I am beginning to see that what seemed to be a “falling apart” is becoming a dance of falling together, now. 

I see the possibility of the writing of a book. I see the possibility of having something to say that might be useful and valuable…something that would be worth sharing. I see the possibility of having conversations with people that are important to them…that show them a doorway into change and into seeing the direction of their deepest desires.

The thing, now, this year, is to fully step into the energy of that potential; to step into that excitement and explore. The thing now is to be willing to try new things and see what happens…to make mistakes…to reach out and ask.

Ask.

Ask for help. Be curious about how things work.

The thing now is to own my intention; which is to look at anything that seems to be holding me back and walk to the edge of it. The thing is to learn, and play, and to experiment. My intention is to hold a light up to my fears and move through them. My intention is to discover, one way or another, exactly how friendly the universe is when I give myself over to it instead of battling it.

What could happen then? If i give myself more and more to this fire in my belly right now, and just keep doing the work?

If I keep doing the work of writing “a word, after a word, after a word,” as Margaret Atwood puts it, and begin seeing the patterns; what could happen? As I delve into the various puzzle pieces of my own story that have felt confusing, or painful, or that have felt like moments of courage and triumph…or inspiration and see what fits together, what might I discover?

If, conversation by conversation, I learn to have conversations that inspire others and ease their way in the world…if I can show them their deep connection to their own answers and their own inner guidance…what could happen then? How might life become even more beautiful for people around me? How might that create an amazing vortex of joy?

I would love to hear about your dreams and intentions for the new year. I would love to hear what’s happening for you. Write and tell me on the form you’ll find under this post! It could be goals, your heart’s desire, a dream, something you are moving away from, something you are moving toward…what would you love to see happen for you?

Happy New Year to each and every one.